Two things here.
First, why is it the dating and newly married people deem it appropriate to tell single people about dating? There is an article about singleness on RelevantMagazine.com and half the comments are from dating people talking about how they waited or went through a hard time and on the other side, a wonderful person to date was waiting for them. Guess what, I don't care. If I knew you, I would be happy that you were happy, but why do these people feel that it is their job to tell single people a bunch of crap? God doesn't give every single person what they want. It's not a contract here. Just because that is the way that God worked with you, doesn't mean that that is how He will work with me. What is wrong with being single anyway? Why can't I live my life single rather than it just be a waiting time for marriage. I am still valuable as a single person. Anyway just some thoughts. I should probably stop now before I get myself in trouble.
Second, the call made by the ump last night in the Angels/White Sox game was completely bogus. He made one call and then changed his mind in the middle. The batter struck out and the catcher caught the ball. Not that hard here. The replay doesn't come close to looking like the ball hit the ground. So the ump was wrong. Why couldn't he just say that? Because people can't admit that they were wrong. Guess what, we are all human. I think that the Angels should have finished the game under protest, but they didn't. I was rooting for the White Sox, but have changed my rooting interest due to the bad call. Reminds me of a completely blown call in the 90's due to a little "nothing nice to say" named Jeffrey Maier.
4 comments:
WOAH! On your First 'blurb' of this post... Your honest opinion, i respect that. I agree with you to some degree, but with age comes wisdom and through experience comes knowledge as well.
I think when some people ( to a certain degree of course) try to give "advice" or give single people "encouragement" is OK. One of these occasions could be God speaking to some of us that have last hope. One of these situations can be the one to give a hopeless heart, Hope.
But like said, it works for some and not for others.
There is nothing wrong with being single. In fact Paul says that if you can manage it you should remain single and not marry. However, due to your many statements about wanting to date and resenting your singleness I find this blog post, out of character.
It sucks to have people in a state that you wish to be in give you advice about how to achieve similar results. In fact, it can be down right insulting. But as penate said, we experience comes wisdom. Those that date, know things about dating. If God wants you married and you do what He wants you'll be married. The thing is, don't try. Just live your life. It'll happen if it should.
I don't think it's contradictory, or out of character to want to date and yet complain about how single people are treated. Usually it's some married (or dating) person saying, "When you meet that someone, it'll all be worth it," or, "I remember the hard times, too, but then God brought someone into my life." No, you don't remember, even if you think you do. And you can't assume that your single friend will get married. Granted, they probably will, but it's not certain.
I don't think the church knows what to do with single Christians, so mostly they give them advice and encouragement about dating. And yes, I believe that we single Christians get recieve advice about dating from people who have been through it. But what is the church saying about singlenss in doing that? Basically they're saying that being single is like you're in a holding tank, just waiting for marriage.
The problem is our society, including the church, has how to date. In days gone by there wasn't this fuss. Why? The women held all the cards. You wanted to date a girl? You did it at her house with her family. The guy knew, no matter how much he may have wanted some, he wasn't gettin' any. This made the vetting process very quick. A guy who was honestly interested would hang with the fam, sex or no, until the girl decided he was the one. She held the reigns.
Not today. Today people worry so much about finding their "soulmate" that they pass mate after mate after mate. Marriage doesn't rely on love but commitment. Pick a girl you like and understand, and with pray and supplication commit your life to her and God will do the rest. (the same goes for the girl) It really isn't that hard.
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